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Not a calendar girl

My memory is odd.

I can remember numbers forever.  I know all my credit card numbers (and expiration dates) by heart.  I know my current checking account number by heart.  I used to know my old driver’s license number when we used to live in NY, and know most of my NJ driver’s license number.  I know my checking account from when I was in college.  I remember a bunch of my friends’ old phone numbers going as far back as middle school.

But if it’s not numerical, forget it.  I suck with names, I suck with dates in general, and birthdays specifically.  I only remember my dad’s birthday because it’s two days before July 4th.  My brother and one of my friends have birthdays on February 1st and 2nd… but often I cannot sort out who has which birthday.  If you asked me, I would be hard-pressed to come up with my mother’s birthday, though I would be within a day or two.  One of my kids was born on July 21st, and one was born on February 23rd, and I am constantly forgetting which one was born when.  I have to take time to process to make sure I don’t decree one birthday July 23rd and the other February 21st.  And even then, I’ve made the mistake more than once.  I totally suck.

And the dates I do remember, I never remember them on the date.  My grandmother’s birthday is May 31st.  Do you think I’d have any sort of red-flag go up in my head when that date was approaching, so that I could remember to send her a card?!?

I’m sure part of the problem is that I have a lackadaisical attitude about dates in general.  I don’t care much to know what date it is.  I’ve tried, but the interest peters out pretty quickly.  I like to know the day of the week, and am pretty consistently good about knowing what day it is even when schedules are screwy.  It’s rare for me to say “Today feels like a Tuesday even though it’s a Monday” or something similar.  But that today is the 25th?  It just never crosses my mind, unless a very specific need comes up, to activate such information in my brain.  Maybe I’m just clogged up with old phone numbers.

Anyway, today’s weather was forecast to be gorgeous, so it seemed a trip to our town pool (which is fabulous) was in order.  We hadn’t seen them in a few days, so I called the in-laws and asked if they wanted to meet us there.  They had nothing pressing on their schedule for the afternoon, so they met us at the pool, where we hung out and frolicked with the kids and just had fun for a couple hours.  Then as we’re packing up, my mother in-law asks if we’d like to come over for dinner tonight.  I thought about how, with more forethought than is normal for me, I’d prepped all the ingredients to make chili tonight.  So, I asked if it would be OK if we did it Saturday or Sunday instead.  They said OK, but my mother in-law seemed miffed, or disappointed, or something.  I noticed it for like a millisecond and then Jake was trying to launch himself into the pool with his clothes on, so I didn’t dwell on it and put it out of my mind.

Then Frank called this evening.  He said he was out of work but was going to stop at his parents before coming home.  Why, I wondered aloud.  Because it’s his mom’s birthday, duh! he responds.  Oh… well doesn’t that explain a lot.  Seriously, I would have sworn three ways ’til Tuesday that her birthday was August 3rd.

My husband’s a kind soul and tried to make me feel better by shouldering a little of the blame, because he didn’t remind me.  Really, he shouldn’t need to.  But at least he knows my date-memory enough to realize that maybe date reminders are a good idea.  And I’d love to take the opportunity to lay the blame at his feet but I don’t have the heart.  I need a system for this stuff.  Maybe something like, oh I don’t know… a method of tracking dates, perhaps in grid format.  Possibly on paper, to allow for writing in pertinent information.

I should look into that.

Chicken, corn and rice

Lane’s fourth birthday was today.  I told her she could have whatever she wanted for dinner and she asked for chicken, corn, and rice.  The chicken and rice parts were supplied by our favorite Chinese restaurant, and the corn was supplied by Green Giant.  If she’d told me her dinner wishes before 7:00 p.m. and a day of swimming and spending Grandpa’s money in Toys R Us then maybe we could have managed homemade.

Birthdays always make me introspective, and my kids’ birthdays are no different.

I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on the last four years with Lane, and how they have completely upended my life.  Don’t read that as a complaint – it’s not!  She’s completely awesome.  Oh sure, she has times – and they are frequent – where I feel like my head could explode because she can be so…. sensitive, contrary, irritable, overbearing…. sometimes all at once.  But as much as she can make you wish you could run away from home sometimes, she is just as equally intense in her joie de vivre, her enthusiasm, her simple happiness.  She is overwhelming, she is exhausting, and she is incredible.  She is perfect.  I love her like crazy.

It’s been a social weekend

As reported earlier, we had lots of plans this weekend.

Friday night we had dinner at Frank’s aunt & uncle’s house to celebrate his uncle’s 77th birthday. Frank’s parents were also there. It was fun for me because it was enough people to pass around Jake that I didn’t have to supervise him much, but it wasn’t as much fun because when I was supervising him, he was constantly drawn to the oodles of knick-knacks all right at baby level, or the completely open stairs (their house is a raised ranch). But all in all a good time with wonderful people.

Saturday we spent the day in Connecticut, visiting our friends Dave & Renee, and their twins who are nearly two. Their daughters are wicked cute and sweet and are just the right age in between Jake and Lane that Lane could have fun playing with them, and Jake didn’t get bullied by them, mostly, and all of Dave & Renee’s toys were age-appropriate for both my kids. 😀 We had pizza and wings and Mike’s Hard Lemonade and just sat around and played with kids all day. Again, a good time with wonderful people.

Today we went to the in-laws’ for dinner. Frank invariably ends up trying to fix something on their computer for them. Today, it was getting the new record-player-that-also-hooks-to-your-computer, so-you-can-make-MP3s-from-old-records working properly for them. We also had a Candy Land marathon… oh, me and/or my mother-in-law must have played two dozen games with Lane. She loved it though. (For anyone potentially in the market, Target has the Dora the Explorer version of Candy Land at 75% off – or at least they did two days ago. My Target had dozens of them they were trying to offload.)

We’re usually not nearly this social. 🙂 It’s been a really fun weekend, but I’m a little drained. I need to go to bed.

But, I’m like a little kid — we are expected to get quite a bit of snow in these parts, and it’s already started. I love weather. Hopefully it will be voluminous enough and fluffy enough that it will mean lots of play time for Lane and me. Yay!!